So here it is Monday and I thought I would be ready to explore the resort. Well I woke up at 2:14pm. I could not believe I slept that long. I remember my daughter leaving the hotel room this morning and I thought "I will just lay here a little longer before I get up." Next thing I know it is afternoon and I am not even out of bed. I got up showered and decided to go and get something to eat. I found a little restaurant at the Dolphin resort and had a Caesar salad. I looked at my phone and noticed it has some text messages and a couple of missed phone calls. One of the phone calls and texts was from my long time dear friend Nancy. I called her back and she had some news to tell me regarding my sisters. Since I got off of Facebook in June and since I have had no contact with my Mom or sisters, I could not even imagine what was going on. Turns out my sisters were talking on Facebook. I am not for sure what was said but Nancy was upset by it. Nancy said she had finally had enough. Nancy tried to remind my sisters that they had another sister. My middle sister, Rose wrote back for Nancy to " mind her own F#$%ing business and stay out of our families' business." Nancy wanted me to know that she unfriended my sisters and why. Then Nancy sent me a message she got from my baby sister Anne. The message said "Good morning Nancy...I wouldn't respond if this was anyone else but because you've known my family so long and are friends with my sister, I felt compelled to give you the rest of this equation. Forgive Rose, she's just protective and always has been. She's also always been a little hot headed. Part of that is being Italian. Rose means well. I know perfectly well I have another sister. My oldest sister Amelia chose not just once but twice to disown me as her sister. I am only speaking for myself in this correspondence. In September 2011 was the first time and around September of 2012 was the last. She, not me, has chosen to block me from Facebook and not return so many calls that I stopped calling. I'm so happy that she has you and other good friends like Cheryl in her life. The one thing I'm clear on especially in regards to my own life is that as long as we remain a victim, we remain sick. I pray for all of my family and friends and will keep doing so. My biggest prayer is that my sister Amelia get the help she so desperately needs. I would never want to see anyone suffer much less my own sister. I know what we grew up with and if I can heal, anyone can heal. Forgiveness and love are the remedy for what ales Amelia. It worked for me. I only speak for myself and I refuse to be in anyone's war or to be manipulated any more. I spent a lifetime there. I definitely walk in wellness and with purpose today. Take Care and again I'm praying for all of us and I am so happy Amelia has you."
So here I am sitting with my Caesar salad in front of me at a Walt Disney World resort and the tears just start streaming down my face. I guess we all have our own TRUTH. I have never disowned my sisters. That is my TRUTH. My last phone conversation with Anne was on October 10, 2012, when she called me to let me know that she had recently been to Salt Lake City but had not seen me. During the phone conversation, is when I realized that Anne had been to Salt Lake City with my mother. My last correspondence with my mother was on September 14, 2011, when she emailed "asking that I leaver her alone......I wish you well but ask you to forget who I am." On that same day, my sister Rose had sent me a private message on Facebook saying the same thing my mother said. So the only family member I had contact with since September 2011, was my baby sister Anne. I realized that Anne was trying to tell me she had come to Salt Lake City with my mother to visit my two youngest children. When I asked Anne if she had come to Salt Lake to see my children she replied "they're not your children anymore." Anne and I did not have words and I did thank her for letting me know that she had been to Salt Lake. My understanding for the reason that Anne called me was that she wanted to put pictures on Facebook and wanted to let me know before she did. Anne told me she did not want to hurt me but I felt like a large knife have just penetrated my gut. I remember telling Anne if you really did not want to hurt me you would have told me before you came to see my kids not after. I did unfriend Anne after that phone call. I knew it would be too painful to see pictures of my two youngest children with my Mom and sisters smiling like nothing had ever even happened. My TRUTH is that I unfriended my sister Anne to protect myself from seeing pictures that would be to painful for me to see. I felt a need to protect myself and to not be further hurt by my own family.
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